How to Answer: Think about a difficult boss, professor, or coworker. How did you successfully interact with this person?
2. Think about a difficult boss, professor, or coworker. How did you successfully interact with this person?
The Goal
The interviewer wants to see evidence that you can interact professionally and constructively with others, even if they have a challenging personality or work style. The goal of your response is to show the interviewer that you work well with a range of individuals. Your answer should assure the decision-maker that your communication style will be an excellent addition to their team.
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How to Answer
Answer this question by telling the interviewer about a specific time you encountered a challenging boss, professor, or co-worker and successfully communicated with them. Outline the situation, describe why it was vital that you communicated successfully with this person, and explain the actions you took to build a healthy relationship with the individual.
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Pro Tip
'Think about a time when...' means that the interviewer is looking for a story-based example when responding to this behavioral-based interview question. This means that you should form a response using the STAR method. STAR is an acronym for Situation, Task, Action, Result. Organizing your response using this framework will ensure that you provide the interviewer with the right amount of information and detail.
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What to Avoid
Avoid speaking poorly of anyone you have worked with in the past or present. You should also avoid giving a general answer regarding your approach to getting along with others. Statements like, 'I can't think of a time when this happened because I get along with everyone,' should also be avoided.
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Entry Level Example
"(Situation) I once worked at a locally-owned shop where the owner was very demanding. When he walked into the store, employees would announce over their headset system that the owner was in the building so that everyone could prepare for his entrance into their department. (Task) I am a perpetually positive person, so I assumed that he had great intentions; however, his people skills were a little rough. I could see that he meant well, and I recognized that he wanted to do a lot of good things. I was determined to help my co-workers see it this way as well. (Action) When we interacted, I always took his feedback with the understanding that he didn't mean things as harshly as he might say them. Slowly, he began to soften up. As my colleagues saw that my approach was working, they began to communicate with the owner in the same manner. (Result) After just a few months, the mood of the store was more positive, and our team was much more at ease."
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Administration Example
"(Situation) I once worked for an executive who was very difficult in meetings. He did not interact politely with others. (Task) As his Executive Assistant, I took it upon myself to help this person interact better with our team and stakeholders. (Action) When he would bark orders, I would reiterate what he was trying to say to the group more professionally. It was a subtle approach, and I did so with total respect and patience. (Result) It took some time to see change, but soon he learned to communicate in a way that made people want to collaborate with him."
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Marketing Example
"(Situation) The most difficult person I ever worked with was my boss a few years back. She was the Marketing Associate until she was promoted to Marketing Manager. Unfortunately, after her promotion, she was no longer willing to listen to my project ideas. I believe this was partly out of pride and partly because she was trying to find her footing in this larger role. (Task) Because our roles were so closely aligned, I knew that we needed to learn to work together. (Action) I sat with her for a one-on-one meeting, and we had a nice talk about the positive changes she made to the department. After I showed her that I appreciated her contribution, I then presented my thoughts about growing the ideas that she had started. (Result) We quickly became a great duo. We worked very well together by combining our strengths to make each project exceptional. Today, she stands as one of my professional references."
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Sales Example
"(Situation) In the past, I struggled with my VP of Sales. She was brought on with no industry experience and seemed to have little interest in learning the industry. (Task) As the Sales Manager, it was up to me to win her over. (Action) I invited her on a business trip for an out-of-town client. I wanted her to meet my clients. I aimed to spend one-on-one time to get to know her personality and approach. I asked questions about her background, what attracted her to our company, and her short-term goals for the organization. (Result) During the trip, we bonded as humans, mothers, and sales executives. She learned a lot about the company and industry, and I learned about the skills she brought from her previous roles."
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Retail Example
"(Situation) One of the most difficult people I've encountered was a customer at ABC Luxury Store. (Task) I was a personal stylist at the boutique, and this customer was notoriously difficult, cranky, and picky. However, she was a big spender, so I needed to cater to her needs. (Action) She shopped with me once per month, and each time she arrived at the showroom, I challenged myself to win her over. I gave myself incremental goals along the way - small checkpoints, such as getting a nod of approval or a smirk or grin. I made it a fun little game for myself. (Result) Ultimately, I did win her over, and she warmed up to me, even smiling now and then."
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Teacher Example
"(Situation) I had a coworker in the Spanish department of my former school who was very traditional in her teaching approach. She came from the school of thought that children were to be seen and not heard. (Task) I believe that kids are kids and, to be able to learn most effectively, they need to get up and move. I wanted to show her the importance of relaxing, just a touch. (Action) Over a few months, I spent more time with her in the teachers' lounge, where we would often discuss teaching philosophies and experiences. (Result) She began to trust my teaching approach, and we even collaborated on a couple of activities between classes. I think the students appreciated my efforts to help their other teacher introduce more fun in the classroom."
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Manager Example
"(Situation) At Business ABC, one of my managers was very cold and 'matter-of-fact' in his approach. (Task) I have worked most of my career in the logistics industry, which attracts a large variety of personalities. However, I am a warm person by nature and found it challenging to connect with this particular person. As the team lead, I needed to adapt because we collaborated on tasks nearly every day. (Action) I changed my approach by sticking solely to the facts when in meetings and always presenting data versus opinions. (Result) In the end, it wasn't the most profound relationship that I've had in my career, but we made it work for us and got along well enough to do our jobs and deliver reliable performance."
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"¢ T: The president was very difficult in meetings; she didn't interact politely with others. I took it upon myself to help her better interact with our team.
"¢ A: When she would give orders, I would reiterate them to the group more professionally. It was a subtle approach that I delivered with total respect and patience.
"¢ R: It took some time, but she soon learned to communicate in a way that made people want to interact with her."
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I told him that when we aren't listening you get mad but you are doing the exact same thing. He realized the error of his ways and he said to me "fair enough". Oftentimes, people with big egos only see the flaw in others and not themselves, pointing out their flaws and showing we're all human can be a great way to humble themselves."
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he knew that some of the procedures were quite standardized and easy to follow. When I tried to work with him and explain the philosophy of our team, he would always say
that he did not have time, maybe later, or that he was working on something else. What I did to interact with him was, instead of accusing him that he is not following my orders
or even starting an endless conflict, I established a reward system for every colleague that was focusing to get the job done properly and timely.
According to their achievements, at the end of the week, most of the colleagues were able to get an extra day off except him.
Luckily, he decided to follow our workflow and even asked me to explain what I wanted from him. As time went by, he began to trust me and assist me with other tasks. Our cooperation was finally successful."
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